When is it OK to be homophobic?
This is the question that the gay community is asking right now.
While the gay rights movement has long pushed for equal rights, it has been unable to achieve such equality because of discrimination, prejudice, and other problems.
It has also struggled to gain acceptance within the LGBT community due to the stigma associated with the LGBT label.
“It’s a question that we need to be asking in order to really find a way forward,” said Tarek Kader, executive director of the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA), an organization that supports and coordinates interfaith interfaith and interfaith outreach.
“We’re in a really challenging place, in a lot of ways, in terms of understanding the LGBT experience and what it is.
And I think that’s a big part of why it’s not that easy to understand and to talk about it.”
Here’s how to ask the right questions to get the best answers.
Ask the right question When you are in the midst of an uncomfortable conversation with someone, whether it’s someone who is gay or straight, or a person who is transgender, it’s easy to get confused about the right way to ask them a question.
“You need to find the right thing to ask.
You need to start with the person,” said Kader.
The first step is to understand that the person has a different experience than you do, he said.
The key to being comfortable with a gay or transgender person is to listen to them and not judge them for what they are.
If they don’t have a story to tell, don’t judge them, Kader said.
Ask for a context Before you ask a question, ask for the context.
“For example, if someone is telling you, ‘I was raised as a Muslim, and I don’t see homosexuality as wrong,'” said Kizer.
“What if you were a Muslim kid who grew up in a small town in America, and your parents were practicing Muslims and you were told by your parents that homosexuality was wrong?”
The context is important, too.
“If you’re trying to understand the situation, you need to ask if they’ve had an experience with a person, or they’re being pressured to come out,” said David Tovar, executive vice president of advocacy and policy at the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR).
If they have, ask them to explain what that experience was, how it impacted their life, and how they’ve dealt with it.
If the person says they’ve never had a sexual experience, ask if that’s something that they’ve experienced, too, he added.
“And then ask if it was something that you might be willing to share with someone,” he said, “and then try to make the conversation more comfortable.”
Ask for their opinions Ask a question of someone you don’t know or have a question you don,t know how to answer.
Ask if you have a right to ask, too Be respectful to the person.
“One of the great things about Islam is that it’s an inclusive religion, but it’s also a very, very conservative religion,” said Gail Wilcox, a professor of Islamic studies at Southern Methodist University and author of The Quran and Its World.
“So, for instance, there are no women in the Islamic community, but there are women in society who do have rights, and they’re entitled to those rights.
If you ask someone, ‘What are you trying to achieve?’ then, it might be helpful to ask that question.”
If you don´t know the person, ask about their family.
If someone is not comfortable with the topic, don´teer them to share their stories.
You may not be able to ask about a specific topic, but you can ask if there are any issues with your question.
You don’t need to get all of the details, but ask them what they think, and ask if the person would like to discuss the issue with you.
If there is a lack of an answer, don`t keep the conversation going, and don’t try to change the subject.
Ask about a family situation If you are asking about a person’s family, don,teer your question to ask what they want to discuss.
“People want to hear about how you’ve dealt, or what you’ve done in the community,” Wilcox said.
“When you ask questions about a situation, it may be easier to find out about the family or the circumstances around that person’s story.”
If someone says, “My parents were forced to marry me,” for instance (or even if they don´td say that), ask if you can hear what that family was like, how they felt about that decision, and if that family would like you to be part of it.
“There are certain things that I want to know about that situation, and you can give that person a sense of closure,” Wilcox said.
If no one answers the question, offer a few